How to Handle the Holidays Like Jesus -With Boundaries and Love

How to Handle the Holidays Like Jesus—With Boundaries and Love"

The holidays bring laughter, joy, and a whole lot of family time. But let’s be honest—sometimes, they also bring judgmental comments, rowdy kids, and moments when you need to step outside for a breath of fresh air.

The good news? You can navigate all of this with wisdom, grace, and boundaries—just like Jesus would. Here’s your guide to enjoying the holidays while staying true to your peace and purpose.

🌟 1. Set Boundaries with Love

👨🏾‍🍳 Scenario: You’re working the grill or the kitchen, and someone keeps hovering, asking, “When’s it ready?” Gently say, “It’s under control—why don’t you grab a seat and relax?”

📖 Jesus reminded His disciples to step away and rest. It’s okay to ask for space or help. Protect your peace with kindness.

Mark 6:31: "Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.’"

💡 2. Gracefully Handle Judgmental Comments

🗣️ Scenario: Auntie’s asking, “So, when’s the wedding?” Or Uncle says, “Still at that job?” Respond calmly with, “I’m focused on where God’s leading me—how about you? What’s new with you?”

📖 A soft answer turns away wrath. Diffuse awkward moments by redirecting the conversation with love.

Proverbs 15:1: "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

🙏 3. Redirect the Energy of Rowdy Kids

👶🏾 Scenario: The kids have turned the living room into a playground. Instead of stressing, say, “Let’s play a cleanup race—winner gets dessert first!”

📖 Jesus welcomed children with open arms. Channel their energy into something fun and productive.

Mark 10:14: "When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, ‘Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.’"

💬 4. Speak Truth with a Calm Heart

🙅🏾‍♂️ Scenario: Someone skips the line for seconds before everyone’s eaten. Kindly say, “Let’s make sure everyone has a plate first—there’s enough to go around.”

📖 Speak the truth in love. Address things firmly but respectfully to keep the peace.

Ephesians 4:15: "Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ."

🎶 5. Find Joy in the Chaos

🦃 Scenario: The turkey’s got a little extra cajun crisp, the Bluetooth speaker won’t connect, and someone’s toddler just knocked over the red Kool-Aid on the carpet. Instead of stressing, laugh and say, “It’s all good—things happen. It’s just stuff, and we’re here to enjoy each other!”

📖 Give thanks in all circumstances. The hiccups make the best stories for next year.

1 Thessalonians 5:18: "Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus."

❤️ 6. Show Love Even When It’s Hard

💗 Scenario: Someone brings up politics or throws shade at your cooking. Take a deep breath and respond kindly, or simply change the subject.

📖 Jesus said to love one another as He loves us. Even in challenging moments, let grace lead the way.

John 13:34: "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another."

Remember: It’s About Gratitude and Togetherness

The holidays aren’t about perfection—they’re about connection. Whether you’re hosting or just attending, lead with patience, humor, and faith. Set the tone for a celebration filled with peace, love, and gratitude.

How do you keep your cool during the holidays?